4 Years Later.

Kyle,

It’s hard to believe that we are celebrating 4 years of marriage today. The last 4 years have not only been the best years of my life – but also the fastest. 

Growing up I remember asking my mom how I would know when I met “The One”. Endless Disney movies made me a romantic from the first time I saw the Beast give Belle her library. (Speaking of, THAT’S what I want for my next birthday.)

Kyle. You are the answer to that question.

Not one grand moment with magic & glitter & music & romance.

But every single day.

One million little moments & little gestures that show me you know me best. You see me completely. And you love me fully. You are the best husband FOR ME.

You are my very best friend.

We have done a lot of very un-romantic things this past year. We have planned funerals & we have walked through grief. We have had hard conversations about how we want our future to look. We have budgeted. We have moved. We have worked, A LOT. 

And through it all you are THE VERY BEST ONE FOR ME. There is nobody else I would want to do anything with. The good. The hard. It’s you – I choose you.

You are the hardest working man I know. But you work the hardest at being an amazing husband. I see that every day. I see that when I walk downstairs in the morning and you have cleaned the kitchen at 5:00 AM before you go to work. I see that when I am overwhelmed and you get out a piece of paper because you know that lists give me clarity.

On this anniversary, I am so grateful to know only have a husband who I am absolutely in love with. But to have you as my very best friend.

I cannot wait to see what the next 4 years hold.

Love you forever.

Happy Anniversary, Babes.

Photos are from our 3.5 Year Photoshoot with Echo Photography!

1,000 Days Later : Happy Anniversary, Babes!

It’s been over 1,000 days since I walked down the aisle in 10 layers of chiffon and said “I Do”.

Now, 3 years is by no means a lifetime. In the grand scheme of things, we are just at the beginning of our journey. But I’m not going to diminish 3 years as unimportant. Because the last 3 years of my life have by far been the best 3.

I wrote a blog when we had been married for 4 months called “Why I Don’t Agree that Marriage Is Hard”. And I had so many people tell me that I was still in the honeymoon phase and to wait until a few years had gone by. That my attitude would change and I would soon join the club in proclaiming “Marriage Is Hard”.

So, here I am.

3 years later.

And marriage is still the best thing in the world. 

Are there moments of marriage that are sometimes hard? Yes. But marriage as a whole? Marriage is not hard. Marriage is the BEST.

LIFE IS HARD sometimes. FRIENDSHIP is hard sometimes. WORK is hard sometimes. PAYING BILLS is hard sometimes. WORKING OUT is hard sometimes. DRINKING ENOUGH WATER is hard. REMEMBERING TO DO X, Y, & Z is hard sometimes.

Marriage is the best thing that I have ever signed up for. It is the best choice I made. Being married to Kyle is not hard, it is easy. He makes my life better in so many ways. He challenges me to grow. He loves me exactly the way that I am. He lets me be so vulnerable. So honest. And never judges my unfiltered thoughts.

You know what I think has been the hardest part of marriage?

Vulnerability.

REAL REAL REAL Vulnerability. Because for so many of us, we have been hurt in the past. Not even by our spouse. By friends in 4th grade who made fun of you for something. By the boys in high school who joked about my appearance. So we put our guards up.

And then we get married, and we learn day-by-day that our spouse can be trusted with every piece of our heart. And when I say “hard”, I don’t mean that there are arguments and yelling matches – that we disagree and there is tension. Vulnerability is hard in that we slowly have to take down the walls that we have built. Brick by brick we let our spouse into our lives and understand even fully when it says that two people will become one. It is hard because it is something that we have to consistently do, even if it is unnatural. Even if we aren’t used to it. We choose every day to trust, to be open, and to let ourselves be known.

Kyle has proven time and time again that he is the person I can tell anything to. He will love me. The beautiful parts. The ugly parts. The parts that have been racked with insecurity.

Year 3 of marriage was so beautiful. We learned even more how to be vulnerable with each other. We took our first adventure to Ireland. We walked through grief when we lost family and friends. We celebrated every chance we could.

I am so grateful for the things that marriage has taught me. But more than that – I am grateful for the man who I get to wake up next to every morning and fall asleep next to every night. I am grateful for his optimistic outlook when hard situations arise. I am grateful for his compassion. I am grateful for his patience. I am grateful that he works harder than anyone I know and I never hear him complain. I am grateful that he chooses to love me each morning and never makes me question his commitment. I am so honored to be his wife. I get a front row seat every day to watch my very favorite person do life.

On the good days, on the hard days, on the lazy days at home.

He is the man that I want. He is the man that I need.

Happy 3 years, KJC. You are my best.

I cannot wait for the next 1,000 days.

Kels


Photos from our In-Home Session with : Echo Photography

Two Years Later : Happy Anniversary, Babes!

Dear Kyle Joseph Cody,

First, Happy Anniversary! Two years down. A zillion-ty more to go.

This year has been my favorite.

Our first year was full of changes. This year was full of consistency. I have loved creating habits with you. I have loved easy nights at home, late night walks around the neighborhood. Dreaming for Ireland vacations. Spending time with our friends & families. I love doing the everyday things of life with you.

You have seen me at my best, and at my worst. But have loved me consistently through the highs and lows. Thank you.

You have challenged me. To grow. To believe in myself. To quit being so scared of things. To take risks. To be vulnerable. To be honest. To be kind.

You have celebrated with me.

You have wrapped me up when all I can do is cry.

You have been patient with me when I’ve taken my sweet time.

You have been there. Through it all.

There is not a day that goes by that I question your love or your commitment to me.

You make your love evident. With words. With actions. With consistency. With honesty.

You make me better.

I am so honored to be your wife.

I am so in love with you and so grateful for you.

Happy Anniversary, Babes.

Love you, a million.

Kels

Photos by Jessi of Echo Photography. She is AMAZING!

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